- Posted Tuesday December 11, 2018
When you have a primary care team to lead, goals to achieve and tasks to complete, it’s important that you have the confidence and motivation to take things forward. But how do we achieve that feeling?
Let's assume you want to accelerate your personal and professional growth and optimise results, but something always seems to get in the way. What steps can we take to help us become consistently confident and productive in the stressful world of general practice?
Confidence is something that doesn’t stay still – sometime we’re flying high, sometimes we feel like we’ve fallen flat. Imagine confidence as a balloon that we need to keep inflated in order to see it soar and reach our full potential.
Getting on the road to success
For a start, how about not being so hard on ourselves - being brave and admitting we all need help sometimes? We need to be able to put strategies in place to support ourselves, but where do we start? That’s often the bit that can seem most frightening.
First thing’s first - remember that whatever you’re dealing with, and however you’re feeling, there is always a network support available. Honestly, it has all been done before - nothing is so new that no-one’s attempted it at least once before.
Spend less time with networks that make you feel negative and drain you, and reach out and find people who will support you and help to build your confidence. Spend more time with the people who make you feel positive, help you progress and support you on the leadership journey. Even if the conversations you end up having are difficult, you’ll still come out better equipped than before.
Here are 7 things you can do to build up your self-confidence
I believe we exude confidence when our inner passion is released; our choices feed that passion. It’s the thing that makes you feel proud of who you are, giving you the strength to be where you want to be - and to do what you want to do.
Step two is to combine these actions with the 8 steps below -
then watch out for the results.
1 Productivity is built on achievements! Meeting your goals, whether big or small, can leave you feeling amazing. You may say to me, “But life gets in the way!” My answer would be to start small - begin with what you need to accomplish that day that will help you achieve your overall goal. The next step is to break down what you need to do for the rest of the week…
2 Once those smaller targets have been met, the probability is that you will begin meeting the bigger monthly ones too, making real progress towards that all-important goal you’ve been concerned about.
Write down your goals, break them down and monitor your progress towards meeting them. Keeping track of your achievements will helps you keep focused and stay on course. When you see the progress you are making in front of you, this contributes to building up your confidence. I’m a list person, so I love to tick off tasks I complete them!
3 It isn’t the ‘fact’ that you failed that’s the enemy; it’s the fear that you failed that can paralyse us. If things don’t work out as they should, that’s when it’s most important to dig deep and gather that courage to keep going.
Face the fear and do it AGAIN. Take those risks anyway, allowing you to conquer and move forward. What you’re trying to accomplish is much more important than that lingering fear of failure. Keep going, one step at a time.
4 Even when the goals you are working towards are difficult and you find yourself struggling, push through and get them done regardless. Confident people live by their values and make decisions based around them.
So often it’s our actions and decisions that define who we are. We all want to be the best version of ourselves, so it’s important to be true to what we want to achiever. When that particular task is the last thing you want to do, do it anyway and enjoy the confidence and sense of fulfilment that springs from accomplishing something for the greater good.
5 If actions and decisions are defining principles in your life, following through on those actions gives meaning to your words. Respect is earned through doing what you said you would do. This not only gives other people confidence in you, but it also boosts your self-belief. You can be so proud that you’ve done what you set out to achieve.
6 Think long-term, even is this will include self-discipline and making some personal sacrifices. It may be harder to do right now, but it will be worth it in the long run. As you see the positive impact your choices have made, this will once again help you to move forward with confidence.
There are no gains without pain - at the moment of decision-making your decision may seem frustrating or hard, but stick with it. It’s not about now - it’s all about what you’ll gain further down the line.
7 The biggest confidence deflator is what others think. If you think you can do it you can do it, keep hold of that belief system. Don’t listen to the negative comments. Stay resolute, keep focused - and keep going.
8 Confidence breeds confidence. Give yourself time to recharge and build up the confidence reservoirs – life is too short. Don’t worry - be happy.
Go on, give yourself a boost, inflate the confidence balloon – and see it rise. If you would like to learn more about the ideas in this article and developing your leadership skills, why not take a look at award-winning training providers Thornfields’ ILM3 and ILM5 courses?